Thursday, September 04, 2014


Apparently, a good friend of mine is going to continue a relationship with a married guy, because he's very, very nice, very very smart, very very interesting, and because he makes her feel good about herself.   They're not taking it all the way, mostly because he's married, but they are not stopping, either.

I feel so badly.  I wish I could do more for her than just point out problems or suggest alternatives, knowing that in that situation, an alternative is weak beer, at best.  I mean, she loves this guy, and apparently, he loves her just as much.  He needs her, and she needs him.  Clearly. (She showed me notes from and to him, which is how I know.)

He's just, you know - married.


Tabor said...

This is a disaster waiting to evolve into lots of pain and tears for someone. I would back away and tell the person you do not want to hear anymore about it. I do not think falling in love with someone outside marriage is as bad as lying and secrets about it.

Cerulean Bill said...

She has the same opinion about the likely outcome.

RozWarren said...

and he doesn't divorce his wife and marry your friend because....?

Cerulean Bill said...

No idea, but I suspect its because he is 69 and thinking that attractive as this idea is, it may not be the best he's had. I've seen their letters, though, and they have fallen hard.