Sunday, January 06, 2019

The Return

Today, the French kid, who was here for only two weeks this time, returned to France.   We discovered two things:

First, she's really in love with the local guy that she met last year.  Like, really.

Second, that the local guy's mother is telling him slow down, take your time,  think about the logistics, think about where you see this relatiionship in two years.I like this woman.  

Okay, I'm still envious of the kid - and yes, I know how pathetic that souunds - and his advantages -- good looking, money in the family, and now a hyper-cute  if not downright sexy,  smart French girlfriend, too??? - but his mother's attitude counts for a lot.  Which is weird, because, hey, it's not my daughter heading into this.  But still - it does.  So I'm glad for her.

Wednesday, January 02, 2019

French people

You can support someone emotionally as much as you want, encourage them to change, nod and smile when they say yes, you're right, I need to hear this, I need to do this, I need to change.But when they don't act on it....  there is a point where compassion runs thin.

And when a different person asks you not to let her protective mother know that the guy she's seeing is more than a friend, it gets a little old, too.  Especially when it seems more of a problem to you than to the mother. You begin to wonder If the mother doesn't seem to care, why should I?

Friday, November 09, 2018


Okay, I'm feeling stressed.

My friend who is defending her doctoral thesis in Paris today said that she should know by 5PM or so, Paris time,  if she was awarded her doctorate.  5PM is 1700 hours.  1700 in France is 1100 here, or 11AM.  Its now 3 PM. Not a word. If she didn't get it, she'll be devastated.

Trump is destroying the ideals of my country, and normal people are supporting it.  Not just the bigots and racists, but normal people.  And there's not a fucking thing that I can do to stop it.  The GOP won't.  And the Democrats can't do squat until they are in office, in two months. I swear, I just want to get the hell out of this country.  Never thought I'd feel that way.  Never thought we'd be this stupid, this incompentant.

The girl who stayed with us last year confirms she is coming to this area in December. She says she will stop by our house  Not stay, but stop by. Because the reason for the visit is this guy she met while she was living here.

My French aural comprehension sucks.  My Italian comprehension is nonexistent. 

Makes me wish I drank.

Wednesday, November 07, 2018

My Oh My

Comments Only Women Really Understand

I see Comments Only Guys Really Understand all the time and I think Man, most of these are stupid.  But THESE, I think make perfect sense.

Even the one about Lucifer's Waterfall. 

Wednesday, October 31, 2018


I am sure that the French periodically get together and scramble the meanings of their words, just to confuse me.

DANS means IN.  So why does

l'attente de son apparition est vécue dans l'angoisse

mean the expecation of its arrival is seen WITH anxiety?

Just to confuse me, of course. 

Sunday, October 28, 2018

Artificial Intelligence... Among Other Things

Why is it that I regard sex toys for women as perfectly normal, but this as creepy?  Shouldn't it be the other way around? Maybe the sex-toys-for-women industry has a better PR function?

Thursday, October 25, 2018


When your wife goes to the local doc to investigate a random recurring pain.... and they recommend a quick mammogram.... and you do searches on LEFT BREAST RANDOM PAIN and find all that it could be - including but not limited to cancer -- that's scary.

Finding out that the mammogram and ultrasound showed nothing abnormal was a relief.

Monday, October 22, 2018


I don't read the range of things that I used to read, and, thanks to the internet, my willingness to read at more than paragraph length on a specific subject is diminished, too. 

Just now, I was at a local library,  where I read an issue of The Atlantic that contained two articles that interested me -- one about Newt Gingrich and his effect on slash-and-burn politics, and one about the rise of artificial intelligence, both in tools like Alexa and in medical (and other) diagnostic tools (one company offers to generate real-time analysis of a patients affective state, and to use it to suggest questions that the physician might want to ask).  It also contained an article about the state of politics written by David Frum, who suggested that we need to save our society from Trump and Gingrich's style of operation (Frum used a catchy phrase which I don't recall to suggest that Trump wants more and more of our politics to be controlled by fewer and fewer people, and he's succeeding at it)

And yet as I drove home, all I could think of was gee, I wish someone would summarize those articles for me.